Re: Have you heard this before???
on 03-31-2005 08:53 AM
Yeah sounds like a tricky one here.. One thing that sucks is depending on your relationship with your sister already, something like arguing over rent / money / living arrangements etc can drive a wedge into a family.. be careful..
some interesting advice..
Im not sure where you live.. but here in NYS there are certain "housing" rules that many are unaware of, regarding what constitutes a "legal" resident. Basically if you live in a premise for more than 30 days (which according to your story you have) you ARE a legal resident.. What does that mean.. Technically your sister (or her landlord) can't get rid of you without EVICTING you via a court proceeding.. that is, going to court and getting an order for it. (if landlord is successful, then a tenant has a certain time frame to leave voluntarily (with their belongings) or, they can seek help from the Sheriff or Marshall who will gladly evict the tenant for you. (In laymans terms, they'll kick your ass out to the curb and toss your $hit out into the street, LOL). The process time to do all this varies, depending on where you are from (but here in NY could be days, weeks, or YEARS)
That means even if you decided you werent going to pay any rent ( and let your sister and brother -in-law pay it ALL) they can't do anything to you without getting you evicted..
They can't try to get you to leave by making life miserable either. For instance, shutting off your water, power, heat etc, or changing the locks on you to keep you out. This constitutes an "illegal eviction" and will either get them a nice criminal court summons, or an arrest..
(Whoohoo doesnt that make it easy for your family, friends or houseguests to screw you bad if you let them stay for a mere 31 days or more ??) There are ways you have to prove your residence, like photo ID, utility bills, certain mail etc.. but people always seem to be able to establish that..
My advice...hmmmmm. Personally I wouldn't want to live with my sister and her husband (if mine were married) because by sister could be the biggest Pain in the ass, and who the hell wants to be in the next room while your brother-in -law is, "kickin-it" with your sibling. (UGH!).
Oh yea,.. Don't ever let friends or family stay with you for more than 30 days if you live here in NYS, unless you absolutely know, without a doubt, that you won't get caught in a crappy situation like this..