Re: Woman/ women troubles
on 10-25-2004 07:35 PM
Here's a girls point of view. You fell in love but you couldn't maintain a long distance relationship (for a whole whopping year)? Okay. Chalk that up to immaturity or something. Then you meet someone else to fill that 'void' in your life. Great. Now the original girl comes back and you're torn between the two ladies. It sounds like to me that you (a) don't know what love is (b) are afraid of being alone. You shouldn't date anyone unless you feel confident in your own self-worth.
Don't get me wrong. I sympathize with your predicament. There are two wonderful girls that you would like to be with. What you need to do is sit down and decide what you want. You obviously don't know. Don't drag your current girl around. She REALLY won't appreciate that. Make a decision and be honest with her. But if you decide to stay with her be a bit tactful and while letting her know of your initial confusion don't go so far as to mention your idea of switching her out for your ex. (Don't lie, lies come back to haunt you) If you choose to stay with her make sure you tell her how she is the person you want to be with and how you are sorry for any hurt you caused her with your confusion. That will make her less distrustful of you in the future.
If you choose to pursue your ex realize that she is also in a new relationship and be prepared for the trouble this will cause. I'm not saying 'don't do it', if you think this is the best course of action. But it will be more difficult. Don't be cocky either, maybe she's perfectly content in her new relationship. Try to have some tact in any case. And...good luck, choose with your heart.